Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.

—Ruth 1:16

TODAY’S DARE

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.  Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present.  Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.

Love never fails.

—1 Corinthians 13:8

TODAY’S DARE

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse.  Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what.  Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.

Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.

—Psalm 37:4

TODAY’S DARE

Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father.

—Matthew 18:19

TODAY’S DARE

Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.  Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime.  Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord.  Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing.  Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.

—Psalm 119:105

TODAY’S DARE

Commit to reading the Bible every day.  Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance.  If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you.  Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.

—Proverbs 15:22 NIV

TODAY’S DARE

Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you.  If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment.  During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.

—1 Corinthians 13:6

TODAY’S DARE

Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.  Verbally commend them for this at some point today.

If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?

—Ecclesiastes 4:11

TODAY’S DARE

Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.

The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.

—1 Corinthians 7:3

TODAY’S DARE

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today.  Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what they need from you sexually.  Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.

A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

—Genesis 2:24

TODAY’S DARE

Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet?  Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right.  The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it.  Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.